Personal Preferences


Everybody has their opinion on what's 'real,'
And what's they choose to listen to and their personal preference.
Whether they're 2 years old or 200 years old.
And people can listen to whatever they want.
- Lupe Fiasco

Now to say that one person on this planet has no kind of personal preference when it comes to dating is not only untrue, but redundant. Now what IS stupid to ME are the people that go all OD and into every little nook and cranny about a person that doesn't all them to date them at all. And to say in response to that line, "well you're just like everyone else who judges someone based off what their preferences are", no the hell I'm not. If you tell someone you don't want to talk to them because they breathe 12 times in a minute, then you sir or mam, are a jackass.

Now it's ok to know who you are, to be fully within yourself as a person to know what kind of person you want. Usually that comes from maturity, time & just plain old trial and error. That's where a sense of what kind of person that you want in life and that's fine and dandy, as long as you're willing to mold yourself to what is reality. I mean no one is going to meet your exact match to what you want out of a person, that's just never going to happen. In reality it's not suppose to happen in my opinion. You're suppose to be able to know what you want and be open for change, because at the end of the day regardless what anyone says, change is good for you.

I think with the rise of social networks and all these available apps to people on their smart phone, people tend to voice opinions that aren't exactly, sound. I know you have your right to voice your opinion on any account that you create, it's your right. But at the same time it's just so annoying to see when people just blurt out stuff that they think sounds cool. Most of those opinions are purely based on what the crowd is going with, which is in turned coined by someone that everyone thinks is popular, which has always been the case. But somewhere along the line, it gets to the point where you just sit back and just marvel at the people who just seem to feel the need to flock with the crowd.

I mean it's ok to be different, it's ok to have your own sense of who you are and what you want in life. It doesn't have to match up to anyone else's. THAT's a real preference, something that you take the time to look up, research, go through and learn from, anything that requires your own thought process. It's just so sad that so many women, and so many men get thrown to the wayside because they don't meet someone's opinion, at the time, of who they should be. But that's what I realized what life is like. There will always be those who determine that life should be the way they want it to be, based by lessons & life experiences.

My thing here that I want to convey to people is that life is too short, don't spend an abundant amount of time on people that are clearly unhappy with their own life. Don't listen to those people who spend an extraordinary amount of time downing other people because they've been wronged. Don't listen to all of those meme's you see on Instagram about being this or that, and happy alone. Life isn't about being alone, life isn't about selling yourself short because you want to avoid being hurt.

If you have preferences, then that's cool, that's great. Don't live by them and die by them, because like rules, preferences were meant to be broken, changed, or ignored all together when something has the potential to be great in your life. Be YOU, live life, go to different places, just feel alive. Because at the end of the day, all those memes will disappear, and all those people that told the masses how to treat someone based off being hurt will be gone.

Life is cool with personal preferences, it's even better when you learn to be free of them.

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