So I was
minding my own business one day, off in my own little world, doing nothing
but enjoying my alone time when I received a text about an article someone
read on Facebook. Now I don't usually pay attention to anything on Facebook
if it doesn't involve my blogging and certain posts pertaining to my family,
so I was just kind of like meh when Wife
& Husband Duties Yous Should Totally Avoid Doing While Dating was
suggested to me by a friend.
They asked me to read it and give my thoughts on what was in it. Now before
I get into what I think, here is some of the main points the article hit on.
You can also click the link and get the full article and in depth
explanations for some of the things here. But here are those main points I
was talking about, the first one is for the women:
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Cooking meals for him on the regular
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Washing his dirty drawers
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Living together
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Scheduling doctors appointments
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Attending all family functions
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Giving him large amounts of cash
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Cleaning his place
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Helping him manage his bills
And of
course the section for men was a little less, but a little more critical
since it was so few points to hit on. I've summed it up a bit because I
want you to go read the full article:
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It’s fine to court or pursue your lady of interest by taking her out to eat, movies, dates, buying a birthday gift, etc as you are getting to know her. Just don’t spend or give excessive amounts of money when asked.
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A woman is a Queen but she is not YOUR QUEEN until you two are married so you shouldn’t live together while dating. Never get ahead of yourself losing perspective because there is no rush so be patient.
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ALWAYS USE PROTECTION WITH ANYONE YOU ARE DATING NO MATTER WHAT SHE SAYS ABOUT BEING ON BIRTH CONTROL, TUBES ARE TIED, HAD A SHOT, ETC.!
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While you are getting to know your lady of interest, you should not take on the father role of her kids.
Now my
first reaction to this list was to ask who hurt the author? I mean a lot
of this stuff came across as harsh, but then as I read it more, it
turned out to make a lot of sense. I for don't like anyone doing too
much for me because I don't like not doing things for myself. Then on
top of that a lot of this stuff seemed like you should just know better,
but a lot of these things people fail at, aka #3 on list 2.
But my
thoughts on this list is that too many people these days are too
comfortable playing house rather than going out and getting their own
and then bringing what they have to enhance someone's life rather than
taking care of their every want an need. I always say from the get go
that I want my wife to have her own life and career, and by the way that
young lady answers that question I automatically know what kind of woman
I have on my hands. Most women want a man to take care of them and their
needs without them having to work for anything because they don't know
any better. I'm not willing to do that because eventually I will get
tired of you, no matter how much I love you, unless I'm rich, I cannot
support you. Even then I probably still won't because I'm not overly
fond of the idea of another human taking care of another human.
This whole
shacking up and playing house with people who have kids is something I
will never be interested in. Now don't confuse that statement with me
not wanting to talk to someone with kids, I don't mind it if she has
kids, but if she's not actively making their life better on her own, how
can you expect me to swoop in and take care of you guys out of the blue?
That's not how life works around this part of tow mam, and that won't
ever change. At the end of the day, take care of yourself so that when
you talk to someone and eventually date them, you have way more to offer
than the normal nonsense that you see above that you THINK you have to
do to keep someone around.
What do
you think about this list? Do you think it was all right, all wrong or
had some ones that could've been left off? Let me know in the comments
below, I want to hear your thoughts.
Until next
time guys!
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