Daughters

Waitin' for the Lord to rise,
I looked into my daughter's eyes,
And realized I'mma learn through her.
The Messiah, might even return through her.
If I'mma do it, I gotta change the world through her.
- Common

I started writing this blog about a year ago; I could never get started on it because I didn't know how I wanted the intro to be. But after all of the killings this past year, there's one thing that sticks out the most, the tears of the mother. At some point in all of the pictures and all of the videos, there are those mothers that are on the scene, and you can see the world that they were trying to build, torn apart. You saw it with Travyon, you saw it with Mike, you saw it with Tamir and you will continue to see that same scene all the way til things change. Those pain in the mothers eyes are indescribable, you simply just can’t quantify how a mother, a woman who carried that same human inside of her for months on in can feel when she has to deal with something like that

When I see scenes like that, it's more important than ever we, as men, step up and be the support system that these women need. Women are the strongest beings on this earth and worlds beyond. The can create life; nothing can top that, nothing. That's why it's important that as a man, I must lead the way and show how a King takes care of his kingdom. Because eventually those princes and princesses grow up to rule their own kingdoms, and you will want the best from them that they can do, because you gave your all for them to be able to try. Today I want to talk about my princesses, our daughters.

Too often I hear the phrase, "I'd rather have a son because I can't handle a girl". Main reasoning being that they are scared their daughters will end up being hoes or something to that effect. I mean I can see that logic because of all the women that they messed with, but I personally believe in raising your children to be extensions of yourself. So if I raise my daughter to believe in herself and maximize her self-worth, then she'll never even blink in the direction of being loose. That's just my understanding of life and how it works. I mean of course you can't really stop them from life, but you can give them all of the information to make sound judgments and decisions.

All in all, I'm ready to have a daughter, mainly because it's majority of men in my family. I'm ready to be the dad that does it all, and more, and raise a fine woman who can carry her own. I want to tell those silly bed time stories, struggle to do her hair, let her cry on my shoulder when a boy breaks her heart, teach her how to change her own tire, let her know it's ok to be who she wants to be in this world, regardless of who tells her that she can't. I'm just ready to show her how a man is supposed to act so that she can find one that is better, and raise the best grandchild ever. Life is all about making your mark and creating something better and that's what I plan on doing with my daughter, giving her all the tools possible to be the best woman she can be. That's why I want to have a daughter, that's why I want to be a great man.

But that's just me; I can't speak on everyone else. Before I go, I found something interesting on twitter, I forgot where it came from because it's been so long, but I think its pretty dope, and something I definitely will teach my daughter about.

1. Learn to put on your bracelets and zip up your dresses by yourself. There will be times when you will be alone.

2. Get on a long plane ride. Look out the window. Understand the immensity of our world. Understand your insignificance. Understand your absolute importance.

3. Press the send button. If you don’t say it now, you never will.

4. Do not sneer at happiness or roll your eyes at sadness. Be aware that apathy is not healthy.

5. You are more than the amount of people who want to have sex with you.

6. That pit in your stomach when he doesn’t text you back, it shouldn’t be there. No one should be able to control you like that.

7. Shopping is cathartic. Buy the shoes and deal with one-ply toilet paper for a while.

8. It will get better, but it will never be perfect. Learn to live through the small moments of happiness. When they disappear, remember they will resurface.

9. I promise that cookie will not change anything (except that it will make you smile).

10. Please, please, take care of yourself. You are everything to somebody. You are everything to your self. That alone is enough.

If you have any comments, you know they're always welcomed in the comment section below.

Until next time guys.

4 comments

  1. This post is really inspiring ! So relevant to the issues that we are facing today.

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    1. Thanks Vian! This post came as a result of a conversation I had where we had contrasting opinions, this is my side of things.

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  2. I can really feel the love in this post for your future daughter. I really think that having read this, we need more fathers like to in order to prevent so many young women going into the wrong direction. Your thought are inspiring! xoxo

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    1. Thank you so much, I'm just ready to have a daughter and experience that joy lol

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