Stop & Smell The Roses


So I was sitting on twitter the other night going through my favorite tweets and I actually found a tweet from one of my dearest friends Niesha Poo that I've been meaning to blog about. That list was entitled 20 Signs You're Doing Better Than You Think You Are, sounds pretty interesting right? For those who don't know how the creative process operates, let me enlighten you just a tad. Any and every little thing can trigger something from your memory and just make your mind click in a way that can make said artist or writer churn out something that is very relatable to something that's going on in their life right now. 

Now recently, as I've alluded to a couple of times, I haven't been taking the time to enjoy life, instead focusing on what to do next in my life. So it's pretty much on time for me to find this tweet about this list and give my input on it, thanks Niesha Poo. So let's take a look at the list and I'm going to talk about how it applies to my life at the current moment.

1. You paid the bills this month, and maybe even had extra to spend on non-necessities. It doesn’t matter how much you belabored the checks as they went out, the point is that they did, and you figured it out regardless.

2. You question yourself. You doubt your life. You feel miserable some days. This means you’re still open to growth. This means you can be objective and self-aware. The best people go home at the end of the day and think: “or… maybe there’s another way.”

3. You have a job. For however many hours, at whatever rate, you are earning money that helps you eat something, sleep on something, wear something every day. It’s not failure if it doesn’t look the way you thought it would – you’re valuing your independence and taking responsibility for yourself.

4. You have time to do something you enjoy. Even if “what you enjoy” is sitting on the couch and ordering dinner and watching Netflix.

5. You are not worried about where your next meal is coming from. There’s food in the fridge or pantry, and you have enough to actually pick and choose what you want to eat.

6. You can eat because you enjoy it. It’s not a matter of sheer survival.

7. You have one or two truly close friends. People worry about the quantity but eventually tend to realize the number of people you can claim to be in your tribe has no bearing on how much you feel intimacy, acceptance, community, or joy. At the end of the day, all we really want are a few close people who know us (and love us) no matter what.

8. You could afford a subway ride, cup of coffee, or the gas in your car this morning. The smallest conveniences (and oftentimes, necessities) are not variables for you.

9. You’re not the same person you were a year ago. You’re learning, and evolving, and can identify the ways in which you’ve changed for better and worse.

10. You have the time and means to do things beyond the bare minimum. You’ve maybe been to a concert in the last few years, you buy books for yourself, you could take a day trip to a neighboring city if you wanted – you don’t have to work all hours of the day to survive.

11. You have a selection of clothing at your disposal. You aren’t worried about having a hat or gloves in a blizzard, you have cool clothes for the summer and something to wear to a wedding. You not only can shield and decorate your body, but can do so appropriately for a variety of circumstances.

12. You can sense what isn’t right in your life. The first and most crucial step is simply being aware. Being able to communicate to yourself: “something is not right, even though I am not yet sure what would feel better.”

13. If you could talk to your younger self, you would be able so say: “We did it, we made it out, we survived that terrible thing.” So often people carry their past traumas into their present lives, and if you want any proof that we carry who we were in who we are, all you need to do is see how you respond to your inner child hearing, you’re going to be okay, from the person they became.

14. You have a space of your own. It doesn’t even have to be a home or apartment (but that’s great if it is). All you need is a room, a corner, a desk, where you can create or rest at your discretion; where you govern who gets to be part of your weird little world, and to what capacity. It’s one of the few controls we can actually exert.

15. You’ve lost relationships. More important than the fact that you’ve simply had them in the first place is that you or your former partner chose not to settle. You opened yourself to the possibility of something else being out there.

16. You’re interested in something. Whether it’s now how to live a happier life, maintain better relationships, reading or movies or sex or society or the axis on which the world spins, something intrigues you to explore it.

17. You know how to take care of yourself. You know how many hours of sleep you need to feel okay the next day, who to turn to when you’re heartbroken, what you have fun doing, what to do when you don’t feel well, etc.

18. You’re working toward a goal. Even if you’re exhausted and it feels miles away, you have a dream for yourself, however vague and malleable.

19. But you’re not uncompromisingly set on anything for your future. Some of the happiest and best adjusted people are the ones who can make any situation an ideal, who are too immersed in the moment to intricately plan and decidedly commit to any one specific outcome.

20. You’ve been through some crap. You can look at challenges you currently face and compare them to ones you thought you’d never get over. You can reassure yourself through your own experience. Life did not get easier, you got smarter.



I was going to give my spin on each reason listed, but as I was reading it I realized that every single one listed needed no further elaboration and that each one was dead on. I realized also that life is not working and dying, it's the times in between that we have to cherish with the people we love and making new memories with strangers that matters the most as well. Working in this day and age is all some people know and the employers take advantage of that to monetize their profit and maximize productivity from each worker. While there is nothing wrong with that to me, because everyone has to make money, there has to come a point where you draw the line in the sand. I know some people are stuck in positions where they HAVE to work like that, but I always say; where there is a will, there is most definitely a way. It's just how you choose to see it, I could give my testimony on how I made the change and I do it everyday, but that's another topic for another day.

All in all, if you feel stuck like I did and feel like things just aren't working out, hopefully this list opened your eyes and made you see that what you're going through isn't bad at all and it motivates you to either appreciate what's going on at this current moment in your life, or it forces you to make some changes that you've been wanting to make. Happiness is all around us and it's just a little nudge that we need to push us in the right direction to become a happy version of ourselves in our own eyes. Life is life, how you live it is up to you and you alone, make the right choice to live it for you and to be happy.

What do you think about the list? Do you think it's not quite on point or do you feel like it nailed it on all cylinders? Leave it in the comments below.

Until next time guys.

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