Every Little Step You Take


 I don't feel any need to play the role of the clown,
In my private life I take a break from humor.
- Gad Elmaleh


I was always told, not everyone has your best interest at heart, even the closes of friends could be the ones plotting to take everything you have.

Now while I personally believe that's a bit of a stretch because I don't surround myself with such people, the same can't be said for everyone else. For the longest I had the problem of thinking that everyone I surrounded myself with made the same sound decisions I did when it came to people they put in their life. Boy, was I wrong for having that train of thought. That's the major problem with being an optimist sometimes when choosing friends.

Now granted I learned that lesson years ago, what I did learn recently was that having a private life is all the more important in today's world. With social media basically taken over the way we communicate, a lot of people blurr the lines between what should be known to the masses, and what shouldn't be known. For instance, when people go through things, they make status' on Facebook divulging information not needed to be known to friends list. On twitter there are a series of tweets that shouldn't be shared with the timeline, most common referred to as "tweeting through it". Then there is my all time favorite on Instagram where they either post a meme or a fake deep comment under a picture of themselves.

Now whatever floats your boat or gets you over the situation, then by all means, do you. Because at the end of the day, it's your life, and it's your social media networks, you can do whatever it is you feel like. But I have to remind people of the coming fallout over that. Never mind the fact that you probably make yourself look crazy or undesirable to a lot of people with each new message. Then there's always your digital footprint, the internet logs every single thing you do the time you connect to the internet.

For me having that sense of privacy goes hand in hand with not having to answer annoying questions from people. I've noticed that one thing people like to do is spark up conversation, and since they THINK they know who you, they like to throw out stuff about situations or people that you have long since moved on from. Now that's what grinds my gears. Having that personal life bubble for me means that I don't have to answer that question, nor do I have to strike up meaningless conversations that I don't care for in the first place.

Now I will admit that I go overboard sometimes with not telling people parts of my life. But if that means that I have to do that in order to not have those annoying moments in life that seem to happen far too often these days, I'll happily take it. That's just how I want my life to be setup. In addition to that, I really don't want to know other people's personal problems as well.

I know that seems pretty messed up, but hear me out.

I'm a "cut the shit" kind of guy, meaning, I don't like when people dwell on things they shouldn't be dwelling on. I like to find solutions to problems immediately, and be done with the situation. Now while that may point to the character flaw I have dealing with patience, I'll gladly take that then hearing about the same situation over and over because the person at hand refuses to learn from their mistakes or simply likes to complain for attention. That's not me anymore, I'm not built to do with the small nuances in life right now.

I think for me to have great working relationships with friends, family, coworkers, anyone, I HAVE to have my personal life kept under wraps. I am not the same person I am with friends than I am with myself or when I have a girlfriend in private. That's where people misconstrue a lot of things with me. I know I'm an outgoing person, who can make all these jokes and people feel good about themselves. But in my private life, I'm the complete opposite, as should be. And just like my quote from above says; I don't feel any need to play the role of the clown, in my private life I take a break from humor.

What do you think? Should your private life be private, or should people know most aspects of it? Until next time guys.

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