The Choices We Make

 
When you wake up every day, you have two choices.
You can either be positive or negative; 
An optimist or a pessimist.
I choose to be an optimist.
It's all a matter of perspective.
- Harvey Mackay

We all make choices everyday that affects not just ourselves, but the people around us, whether we know that purposely or inadvertently. These choices, both good and bad, can have a small effect on the things that we do personally but could mean bigger consequences in other peoples lives. I've seen that a lot of people make excuses for the things that they do without taking into account a couple of things before they do them. I typically try to think of three things before I do mostly anything at all.

The first one being, what effects is this decision going to have on my life? You always have to start with self first because that's what matters the most. You have to think what is this decision going to do for me right now, in the near future and in the future. While something looks great now or you simply don't care, later down the road you may sit back and think to yourself "man what was I thinking about when I did that?". I mean no one is perfect and we can't determine our future actions based off the ones of now, but majority of the time you know the decisions that aren't good ideas before you do them.

Then next you have to think to yourself, does it effect my loved ones? I mean anything in life you do revolves around your family, anything, that's just common knowledge. You may not have too great of an immediate family now, but one day you're going have one of your own and you have to think about the things you do now for when they come into your life. You don't want certain things you do coming back up in the future and disturbing the flow of things. While it may not mean much to you ever, the people around you see life differently and it may effect them greater than you realize. This is where you have to take into account other's well being on this one.

Then the final thing you have to ask yourself is it morally right? A lot of people these days flat out don't care about the moral ramifications of making poor decisions. This is where they make excuses about that things that they do. They think because they're at a certain point in life they can say a certain phrase and that it will be ok to do. I mean if that's you decision making process and that's what makes your boat float, then by all means, do it. But you should probably take into account the morality of the situation before you just dive into it. Because I guarantee you this, you might not care about your moral fiber now, but later in life, it will matter greatly.

All in all I say this because I realize that some people don't have the same decision making skills that have come to make me respected. That's the learning point in all of this, don't expect people to think and do what you do because they are not you and you are not them. That's where I am right now, but at the same time, you have to surround yourself with people that do the things that you do because at the end of the day, your happiness stems from the life that you've made. So you if you're around people that aren't encouraging you to make the right decisions in life, then eventually they will move along and leave you with the decisions you made in the wrong moments.

For most of my life I've made decisions based off what I see, that's how I learn. I learn through actions and history. And now that I'm inching towards the realm of being an actual adult, a lot of things disappoint me about the people I once held in high regards. They make decisions that usually come back to bite them right in the butt and they usually come crawling back. That's how it always happens in my life, always. But now it's not up to me to judge them off the things they do, or to even care, it's up to me to decide to choose what to deal with. And at the end of the day, I typically choose not to deal with something because it's not within the parameters that I've set for myself. Basically, if you don't move how I move, then you can move around.

What do you think? Do you think that people should have a decision making system or should they just wing it and do whatever they feel and deal with it later? Tell me what you think in the comments below.

Until next time guys.

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