My Dating Life, Or Lack thereof ..


"Because I don't want to".

So lately I've been asked a couple of times as to why I choose not to date, and above is my answer to that question. Now of course I have a reason for not dating beyond me not wanting to, I usually say that because people can't leave well enough alone when they do get the real reason. Which in turn annoys me when they try to give their unsolicited advice about a matter that doesn't concern them. Which also brings about the comment of "I just want you to be happy" like single people aren't happy. You don't need another person to validate who you are or who you're trying to be in this world, I wish more people understood that.

But to be completely honest, I just don't feel like spending money or giving out my time. Well I should say I haven't met a woman who has made me feel like I should. Dating is expensive when you're trying to accomplish personal goals that pertain to self preservation. I know what some people are thinking when they read that line, "how cheap does he have to be to not want to spend like 20 or 30 dollars", well I'm not cheap to spend that but when you're actively dating then that can easily jump into the hundreds of dollars per month and a couple of thousand per year. Me not wanting to spend money on someone else and use it toward things that I want in life is not a bad thing, I've dated enough in my lifetime. Being selfish for a change is a good thing for me since I'm in the process of getting to know myself better.

The other half is meeting a nice young lady who makes me want to actually spend money on her, which I have yet to find. I mean my one date in the past two years was cool, but it's not something that had me jumping to the bleachers. I think at this point in my life I'm more so looking for that mental and personal connection that a lot of people fail to live up to. A lot of people think they have something to offer until someone picks their brain apart and makes them wonder about their own life and they're ready for something serious.

Yes I have picked apart a woman's brain on the first encounter and made her rethink her whole approach, *shrugs*.

Ok but seriously if it's not me wanting to spend money, me not finding the need to take you on the date or me poking holes in your whole reasoning about going on a date with you, then it's me not having the kind of luck needed to find someone to go out on a date with in the first place. As I typed all of this and sat back and read some it I realized that at the end of the day I don't want to be bothered by trivial things and that's where most women that I meet lack at. I think me literally not being about the nonsense is a turn off and in turn that's a turn off for me because it's just confusing.

I don't know this whole post confuses me for the simple fact that I tried to justify my reasoning's for not wanting to date at this point in my life. I'm just going to stick with my original response of me not wanting to until the day I meet a nice young lady that makes me want to. I think that's the best course of action here lol. I don't like to over complicate my though process and this is seemingly causing me to over think something that is so easy to understand.

Well at least to me it's easy to understand and that's the only thing that matters.

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